Can you teach your heart to love someone else?
Ξ June 28th, 2007 | → | ∇ Love, Random Thoughts |
Now I’m starting to be emo. I can’t help it, I can’t think of any good topics lately. I wanted to write but I don’t know what to write about. I don’t even have any ideas how to make this blog interesting. Anyway, I thought writing something about love (once again) can make up for the wasted time I spent today.
It just amazes me how some people can go blind when they are in love. They can’t see that the one they love may not be the one for them. I mean, put yourself in a situation that you are in love with a married man. Whatever the circumstances and whichever side you look at it, you lose. Whether you love him and he loves somebody else or he loves you and you love him in return, you will lose. You won’t be together because he is already committed. On the other hand, there is this someone who is so in love with you. Willing to go through fire just to have you. He can be the right guy, the man of your dreams and yet, you don’t love him.
If you were going to choose, whom will you prefer? The one you love or the one who loves you? Ofcourse, the one who can make you happy, right? This is the hard part. Some people blinded by love will still choose the one that they can’t have (like my example above) because they think that it is the source of their happiness; who can also be the source of their misery. They will not choose the one who is available simply because they don’t love them.
Can you teach your heart to love someone else? Because if lovers can, maybe they will have no trouble choosing the one they would love, the one who can make them whole again. Or maybe, they’re just too blinded that they can’t see who they really want for life. Or maybe, they just have to be patient and wait for their heart to beat for someone who really loves them.
Or maybe, I can think about a good topic next time and post a good read…
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on June 28th, 2007 at 3:16 am
I’d prefer the one I love.But on the other side, you will lose. You will give and give without recieving any in return. It’s frustrating.Now a days, women or men are practical.Love is just a second factor. There are lots to be consider. So don’t get your self fooled by your emotions.
on July 1st, 2007 at 8:19 pm
Hi Donna! I think your website is inspiring. For me I chose someone I love and loves me in return. Someone I’m comfortable with, I’m attracted with, someone I love and I accept his imperfections and flaws. If a man is already married, I’d rather ignore him on th first place because I think about his family. There are so many men in this world, why waste our time with a married man. We should think about his wife and children.
on July 1st, 2007 at 10:40 pm
It’s a weird that thing called ‘love’.
on July 2nd, 2007 at 7:33 pm
when you love someone, he must give love in return… love is a two way street… but the weirdest part of it, nobody is allowed to enter! otherwise, remember oprah’s six words: he’s not that in to you!
the mind is structurally located above the the heart… this is to remind us to use our minds first and think before the heart pumps again and palpitates…
on July 12th, 2007 at 3:13 am
i remember that famous line from Moulin Rouge. It says “The greatest thing you’ll ever know is to love and be loved in return”. Yeah, it is, but that’s not always the case. And nobody is forced to reciprocate one’s feelings just bcoz he is loved!
And besides, whatever answers you received for this, it won’t solve the real problem. I’d like to share that unrequited love doesn’t mean losing. Yeah, you can’t have him but you have to do something to overcome that feeling before you shame yourself. Once you overpower it, there’s no point you have lost in the end. It’s only how we view things that makes the impact.
You have to limit that habit of asking and asking yourself about what would be chosen, any of the what ifs. It will bore you to death.
on July 13th, 2007 at 1:38 am
It’s a good enough blog entry. You should have some more idle time.
It made me go back and read this, written only a few weeks after I was dumped by the man I love. The pain’s still there I tell you.
on July 13th, 2007 at 3:52 am
Vilma, So many factors to consider now, eh? Hehehehe, you’re right, most people now are practical that sometimes it doesn’t matter anymore if they are in love or not.
Brooke, Thanks very much. Seems like it’ the very best thing to do but if you fell for a married man, you’ll find yourself hurting no matter how much you try to ignore it. :p
Nick, Weird, indeed.
Yatot, There’s this text message I received a long time ago that says something like “If you feel like you’re so in love with someone, stop and think for a while…” Nakalimutan ko na ung karugtong eh… hahaha!
Mitch, So true.
CM, Thank you. Maybe he thought you were too much for him and you deserve someone better. Hehehe.
on July 18th, 2007 at 5:46 pm
its not only a problem of the heart I guess.. may problem din sa utak when you want somebody you can’t have. seriously, I know some women who give in to that and they know what they are doing and yet they continue doing it even though they are getting hurt a thousand times! you can’t teach your heart to love someone else but atleast you can ask your brain for help to do something to ignore/forget that man/woman….
on May 19th, 2008 at 2:39 pm
Basically, many people do misunderstand the point of love. People are blind, people do stupid things and they think it’s love. But it is not. The love must be based on rationalism. I can’t imagine myself being in love with someone who can’t fall in love with me. The love is all what you can do for another person plus something more.
Long time ago I learnt that I must ignore my “feelings” which are usually based on the fact that I am a man
. If you know what I mean.
If people were wise in the matter of love, there would be no divorces and no broken hearts. But people aren’t wise. They do mistakes.
So in general you cannot teach your heart. Although you should do so. It’ll save your time and broken heart.
I found my love already and even I cannot say it’s going to last forever, I am happy. We don’t argue, we aren’t trying to find someone else, and we are together day by day. Sometimes I ask myself if she’s the right for me… She is I answer myself
. Because we understand each other very well. More than very well. And we have a lot of things in common 
… including our business where I am the boss .